“Faithful Parenting: How Single Moms Can Raise Children Who Thrive Beyond the Statistics”
Society often points to the challenges children face when raised by single parents, with statistics painting a grim picture of the outcomes. But as a single, divorced mom, I firmly believe that our children do not have to be bound by these statistics. Instead, we can actively shape their paths with intentionality, prayer, and a commitment to instilling values that empower them to thrive.
Teaching Gratitude Through Giving
When my son was very young, I made it a point to involve him in the act of giving during church. I would hand him a dollar to place in the offering. He would take an envelope, carefully write his name, and place the dollar inside before giving it to the church. This simple act wasn’t just about the money—it was a lesson in gratitude, stewardship, and obedience to God.
Teaching our children how to give their time, talents, and treasures is foundational to nurturing thankfulness. Gratitude doesn’t come naturally; it must be taught and modeled. By incorporating giving into his life early, I aimed to plant seeds of compassion and a heart that seeks to bless others.
“Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” – Luke 6:38
You Are Your Child’s First Teacher
As a parent, you are your child’s most impactful teacher, whether married or divorced. The lessons you model, both in action and words, are ones they will carry for life. I recognized that my role as a single mom required intentionality and prayer. Here are key lessons I focused on teaching my son:
Right from Wrong
Helping him understand the importance of integrity in his choices and encouraging accountability for his actions.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
How to Treat Others
Modeling respect, kindness, and forgiveness, even when challenging. This included showing respect toward his father, regardless of circumstances.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Building Character
- Social Etiquette: Teaching quiet behavior in church, manners, and respectful address to adults
- Using His Voice: Encouraging self-advocacy and confident communication
- Commitment: Ensuring completion of started activities to teach perseverance
“Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” – Colossians 3:23
Preparing for the Future
As a single mom, my ultimate goal was to raise a man who would become a loving husband and present father. Every decision and teachable moment was rooted in this greater purpose. I taught my son to take pride in his work, value others, and honor God in all endeavors.
The Role of Faith in Parenting
Through single parenting’s challenges, I leaned on God’s guidance and strength. He reminded me that while I may be my son’s first teacher, God is his ultimate teacher. My role was to model godly principles, pray daily, and trust in divine guidance.
“All your children will be taught by the Lord, and great will be their peace.” Isaiah 54:13
Final Thoughts
To all single, divorced moms: You are enough to raise children who defy the odds. The values you teach, prayers you pray, and example you set will shape their lives more than single parenthood’s challenges. Our children can rise above statistics, walking into their God-given purpose with strength, wisdom, and gratitude.
Remember, parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about persistence. Keep planting seeds of faith, love, and integrity, and trust that God will bring the increase.
A’s Love Notes for Reflection
- What three lessons do you want to teach your children that align with your faith and values?
- How do you model gratitude in your daily life?
- What steps can you take this week to demonstrate the importance of giving to your children?
